If you ever think you did something embarrassing just remember that I had a really hot waiter one time and i was gonna order double pepperoni pizza but I looked him dead in the eye and accidentally asked for double penetration pizza in front of my whole family
Untitled (Perfect Lovers) 1991. Clocks, paint on wall.
Untitled (Perfect Lovers) consists of two clocks, which start in synchronisation, and slowly, inevitably fall out of time due to the failure of the batteries and the nature of the mechanism. In a moving comment on his personal experiences, the piece refers to Gonzalez-Torres’ HIV positive partner Ross Laycock, and his slow decline and inevitable death due to AIDS. The clocks act as two mechanical heartbeats; representative of two lives destined to fall out of sync, and holds a poignant poetry about personal loss and the temporal nature of life.
“Don’t be afraid of the clocks, they are our time, time has been so generous to us…We conquered fate by meeting at a certain time in a certain space…we are synchronized, now forever. I love you.”
"Art enables us to find ourselves and lose ourselves at the same time."
Anonymous asked: What's your opinion when people get angry at guys who say "not all men" and blame then for rape culture? I'm a women and a feminist and it bothers me so much. It is literally just like any other stereotype and men have a right to feel hurt if they are clumped into one group? They shouldn't excuse the issue because they don't cause it directly, but it is totally true that "not all men rape". Just like "not all Muslims are terrorists" it's the same deal. What do you think?
For starters, that’s a false analogy. It’s not “the same deal” at all.
Muslims are a minority group in this country. They face huge amounts of prejudice, and are stereotyped for something that is completely inaccurate. “Terrorism” is a racialized term, and white men commit far more violent acts each year in America than Muslims of all races and genders combined.
Men, on the other hand, are NOT a minority group in this country. They do NOT face vast prejudices, and statistically speaking, they DO commit the vast majority of rapes.
Of course, we know that not all men are rapists. Obviously. However, all of them unavoidably exist in a system (rape culture) that privileges them, makes excuses for their actions, and blames victims instead of calling out reality. Claiming “not all men” dismisses that fact.
And like you said, “They shouldn’t excuse the issue because they don’t cause it directly”… but that’s exactly what these comments do.
Consider the following male responses in a discussion of rape:
- "But I’m a good guy! Not all men are rapists, you know. How dare you bunch me in with them.”
- "I agree. Since the vast majority of rapes are perpetrated by men, we should talk about why we teach that rape is an acceptable part of masculinity. I know that being male doesn’t make me a rapist, but other guys need to understand that our sexuality is in control as well."
- "Male entitlement has gone too far. It’s tough, but I always try to call it out when I see it amongst my friends."
Which ones are helpful?
[Also, thanks for asking the question. It’s an important one.]